What i need to decide best?

I met my husband 9 years ago and we are married for 2 years. For more then 6 months i have a dilemma about having or not having a divorce. He does not want to divorce. But i feel that our relation is not working: he is a very exhausting person with a very stressed type of life. He is trying to control most of the things i do, including the money i spent and time of hour to arrive home. He helpes me with the jobs in the house (wash dishes etc), he never brutalized me. I tried to separate manny times but every time was something - i don`t know what - that stopped me right in front of the door. For me, it seems that is something that stopes me to make a decision. What can convince me to decide, in a way or another? I went to psychotherapy, but it seems that he has generalized anxiety, a problem that he denies. Thank you